Traveling with kids: leave room for the detours
The other afternoon, I was at a local playground with a child I was caring for when a visiting mom struck up a conversation with me. Within minutes, our casual chat turned into a confession.
She was road-tripping through Colorado from California with her husband and three children, ages two, four, and six. She had planned every hour on a spreadsheet but missed connections and unexpected delays had already thrown everything off. Now, the family was constantly racing against the clock.
“With young kids, you can’t just skip a meal or arrive late to a hotel without everything falling apart,” she told me.
She was right. A hungry toddler can turn a small delay into a major crisis. But as I listened, I realized that the real problem was not the missed flight. It was the pressure of trying to fit three young children into an adult-sized itinerary.
After years of caring for children while families travel, I have learned that the more tightly adults try to control a trip, the more stressful it can become. Children need meals, rest, and some predictability, but they also need room to move slowly, get distracted, and simply be children.
After that conversation, I asked a few moms for their best family-travel advice and reflected on what I have learned through my own experience. These are the tips I took away.
The Best Plan? No Plan.
One of the most useful ideas was simply to plan less. One or two main activities a day is usually enough, and at least one should be something the children will genuinely enjoy. Before traveling, research playgrounds near your hotel or in the neighborhoods you plan to explore. A local playground may never appear in a travel guide, but it gives children time to run, make friends, and reset after hours spent on planes, in cars, at restaurants, and in unfamiliar places.
An empty schedule is the best part of a getaway. Vacation is the one time you get to wake up with no agenda and see where the day takes you. Leaving the day completely blank lets your family slow down and spend real, meaningful time together without the pressure of an itinerary.
Secret Weapons for Stress-Free Outings
Food can also become part of the adventure. Visit a farmers’ market, let the children choose a fruit they have never tried, and fill your bag with simple snacks for later. Fruit, carrots, crackers, and other easy foods can keep the dreaded afternoon "hangry" monster at bay. Adults may be able to wait another hour for lunch, but young children usually cannot.
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Another tip I loved was to stop treating boredom as an emergency. Parents and caregivers do not need to provide nonstop entertainment from breakfast until bedtime. Saving a movie for the airplane can make flying feel special, while leaving tablets behind during the day gives kids the space to observe, talk, imagine, and explore the world around them.
One thing I always have in my bag when I’m out with children is white paper and colored pencils. The little boy I care for is older now, and one of our favorite dinner plans is going out for sushi. He loves sushi, and I do too, so I love sharing that with him. It is nutritious, fairly quick and easy, and makes him feel grown-up. He dresses up, gets excited, and treats the outing like a special occasion. A recent, sweet memory: the other day we were debating what to have for dinner. I gave him options: “Would you like ramen, sushi, or a burger?” And he said, “You like sushi, I like sushi, let's go get sushi!” It was such a nice thing for him to say, and little moments like that remind me how much I genuinely love spending with him.
While we wait for our food, he colors. He is happy and engaged, and I can enjoy my sushi too. It is a small example of how a little preparation can support children without automatically turning to a screen.
Family travel does not need to check every box on the itinerary you planned back home to be meaningful. Vacation is simply a time to go slow—no alarm clock, no rushing to after school activities, and no stressing to get into bed on time for the next school day. Children may not remember how many attractions they visited, but they may remember getting ice cream, discovering a playground, tossing rocks into a lake with Dad, or swimming on the ocean with Mom.
The best family trips are not measured by how much you fit into each day, but by how much everyone enjoys the time together. Often, the moments children remember most are the ones no one planned.